My sexual identity was
not defined by the sex talk by my parents. The overall view of sex and
expectation of it was much so altered by things my mother said. My mother was
not all shy about talking on the topic of sex. There were many times where she
sat me down and discussed the negative effects of sex. Sex in my home was never
a positive topic. I always heard that if I engaged in sexual activities that
there would be negative consequences. Good things could not come from having
sex. Just like the clip we watched from “Roseanne” my mother acted as if
talking about sex made her uncomfortable to the point where it was hard to
speak. At the same time she would swear that talking to me about my body,
sexual encounters and other sex related topics were easy for her to talk about
with me. Everything was made negative. Some of the things that were told me
were as such, “having sex will lead to pregnancy”, diseases, “sex is all guys
want”, “you are supposed to wait until marriage to have sex” and many other
things stuck with me throughout my life. Even though things stuck with me I still
took it upon myself to learn about sex and all the things I saw important to
know. Even though I may not know all there is to know about sex, it is a
learning experience.
Monday, October 29, 2012
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Supporting Classmates..
I found this blog quite interesting. Everything you said sounded just like my childhood. There are not as many grandchildren but for the 5 of us we all played together. There were certain instances where we couldn't play together simply because the guys were playing too rough. I feel that in today's world people are just using those gender roles to make people how they want them. I never really saw the big deal with kids playing with each other. But I agree with you, lighten up!
Savanna Smith http://savy90.blogspot.com/
Your blog was very inspirational. I myself did not know if I wanted to come to college. My mother also sat me down and said some of the same things. I have to say that this blog was my favorite. My mother also has played a huge part in my life and will continue to play a part. I feel the same way you do, without her I do not know where I would be right now.
Kirsti Potts http://kirstipotts.blogspot.com/
Savanna Smith http://savy90.blogspot.com/
Your blog was very inspirational. I myself did not know if I wanted to come to college. My mother also sat me down and said some of the same things. I have to say that this blog was my favorite. My mother also has played a huge part in my life and will continue to play a part. I feel the same way you do, without her I do not know where I would be right now.
Kirsti Potts http://kirstipotts.blogspot.com/
Monday, October 8, 2012
Homosexuality in the Church
Homosexuality in my
religious community is just as bad as Satan. My hometown church is a very old
traditional southern Baptist church. The church is made up of many elders along
with an array of other ages. I can speak heavily on my beliefs on religion and
homophobia because back at home some of my closet friends/church members are
homosexual. When we younger it was if everyone older than us knew they were
homosexual but there was always that little glimmer of hope that they would
grow out of those ways. As time passed they didn't change. I still hold these
friends very close to my heart. I can remember the first time my friend brought
his significant other to church with him. It was if he had committed a crime. I
felt so bad for him because he got constant looks throughout the service but he
always said that he was confident in himself and the thoughts of others never
bothered him.
After watching the
movie in class last week, I took it upon myself to go read some of the bible
verses that were mentioned in the film along with others that touched on the
topic. I have never felt that homosexuality condemned you to hell; I have never
really understood what makes people say that statement. Reading the different
verses and reflecting back on what some of the people said in the film really
got me to thinking. Everyone interrupts the bible different based on culture
and other factors such as upbringing, previous teachings and etc. Knowing that
many of my church members and religious community are against homosexuality has
not altered my views on it at all. I accept all people as they are, I was
taught not to judge. I also feel that how can we judge homosexual people on their
life decisions when we make decisions that go against the bible daily. As the
John 8:7 says “Let he who without sin cast the first stone…”
Monday, October 1, 2012
Am I Really in Existence... .
As a black young adult
woman in today's society there are days I wonder if I am really in
existence. Black women in society today have so many societal statistics. These issues make me oppressed. I am
oppressed simply because I am first a educated black person and secondly because I am a woman. I
am oppressed from not only the outside would but my very on black community.
There are always stereotypical, idealistic views of how the life of a
black woman should be lived. There are some days I hear that I am in the privileged group of the black community because I have
not had children yet. There is the rumor that black women bare children before
finishing their education. That very thing can sometimes make me feel oppressed
because I am in the privileged group. Another oppressed feeling is attending
a predominantly white institution. In some situations I feel that I
have to work harder to prove my position is just as important as then next
student.
As educated people in
society I think that, yes, we do have a duty to mitigate many of the privileged
and oppressed situations happening around us. Most educated people are admired
or idolized in their communities, if we are the people taking the stand changing
society one small step at a time then who? I try to find myself not thinking
negatively of others to help mitigate some of the oppressed feelings I have on
a daily basis. In my everyday life I could talk to people, find myself
encouraging others that some of the preposterous ideas we think are
just may not be right. Life should not always be about how privileged we are
according to the next person but try to focus on helping each other become
better. The first step to becoming better always starts within you first!
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